Hey Jennifer

Thanks for the ideas -- I do like the frustration technique -- I brought up the idea of my Pet being "grounded" for 1, 2, or 3 days based on the caliber of the offense and she was very, very sobered by the thought, hehe. She has a pretty high dependence on her technology (she's one of those "gotta have a Kindle, iPhone, iPod touch, flat screen TV kinda people) and the idea of having it taken away was not pleasant, if her expression counts for anything. Of course that only makes me MORE willing to do it -- if it will work!

She also hates bell peppers (red or green, doesn't matter) and I used your "salmon for a week" idea and told her I would put in the bag a punishment that she was required to eat an entire bell pepper in less than 5 minutes. She didn't much like that idea, either.

I agree on the essay, too. We've learned that she does have a natural tendency to Top from the bottom and that because I border on being Switch, she likes to try and take advantage of that so she can get what she wants (mostly getting off, but sometimes other things, too). Her version of D/s is very psychological, and it means that a certain tone of voice I take can pretty much get her to the precipice of orgasm, but only if she really BELIEVES I mean it. Part of the problem is that she tends to think that I'm more vanilla than I am, and it will take some time to show her that I don't think she's "weird" or "disgusting" or "deviant".

We have a collar on order....I'm hoping the arrival of that little piece of bondage material will also remind her of her place, both its honors/priveleges and its restrictions.

And yes, we do live together