I would have to say from my perspective that not only do I agree with Jennifer, but I expect pride and self-confidence from my sub(s). My Pet would not be nearly as attractive if she weren't so obnoxiously strong-willed and stubborn with other people -- it is highly sensual and arousing to me to watch that stubbornness fade in an instant if I take a certain tone with her or give her a particular look. But a sub who has no concept of self worth to me is nothing more than a snivelling, grovelling waste of time and space...if you are Mine, then I have chosen you for a REASON and you should be proud of yourself that I have deemed you worthy of My attentions, rather than feeling sorry for yourself or thinking you're not good enough. I don't want to play mindgames with my sub about their worth. I wouldn't waste My time training and caring for a sub who was mundane or uninteresting, sexually or not.

In other words, I want to see you lift your nose at other sub(s) if it comes to that. I want you to feel as though you have the best of the best, and that makes you the best of the best. I want you to be quietly superior -- to bend to my will at any time but to remember that the strongest tree is the one that can stand firm and tall while also bowing before a mighty wind. I want you to be strong, creative, and constantly seeking new ways to please Me. I do not want to do all the legwork alone.

And above all, I want you to TALK TO ME. Constantly. Tell Me what you want, need, crave, fear...these are things that make O/our relationship work.