Where on EARTH did you get these stats?? And... what type of BDSM lifestyle are we talking about here? "BDSM lifestyle" is an over-inclusive term... there's r/l, there's o/l, there's M/s, D/s, switching, there's gorean, old school, there's... would you like me to continue???

On top of which... I don't think "threatening" is really the word you may be looking for here... often times, what you are alluding to is circumstantial... so it completely is different person-to-person, situation-to-situation.