tina2008: I think I can say I understand where your Dom is coming from -- it's extremely important to Me not to cause harm to My Pet. That defeats the purpose of being her protector and advocate and her Mistress. "Mistress" or "Master" to Me implies that you are taking on the responsibility of another human being's welfare and happiness, and as such you should never put them in a position that could be harmful in the short or long run (even if they ask). I'm glad to hear that you're lucky enough to be with a Dom who understands your needs. It always makes Me happy to hear about people with illnesses/injuries/disabilities being accepted into relationships (sexual and otherwise) as real people with needs and desires, because so often W/we objectify such people and make them somehow asexual and alien, which is totally and utterly unfair and wrong.