Hi ChurchofVirus and welcome.

As you can see you have already gotten a lot of excellent advise. Listing things, as Tojo suggested, does amazing things to facilitate good communication.

The only thing I could add is you said she was a "switch." Maybe you take the sub roll a time or two and see how she handles you. I think you can learn a lot about her likes and dislikes this way. She would probably treat you as she would want to be treated. Who knows, you may even enjoy it during your learning process.