differnt types of sumissives

[Jennifer Williams]

Well of course there are different types of submissives; each one is a human being and therefore unique.

Though if you wanted to categorize I would probably split them into two groups as "submissive all the time" and "only submissive at home/in sessions." And Doms could be split in the same way.

And then of course, people can still act differently at any time. My little one is passive and submissive to nearly everyone most of the time, but once we went out to eat and the waiter ripped us off about ten dollars, and little one (verbally) let him have it; he got us our entire meal for free while I just stood there perfectly silently, pleasantly surprised.

Of the two tendencies that you mentioned I suppose it is true that most people lean more toward one or the other; those that are constantly aiming to please and then if they mess up you don't even have to do anything; they punish themselves half the time, and then those that are more feisty and disobedient and would rather "submit" because they lost a power struggle (though they already know ahead of time they will lose).

However I am hesitant to say that these are "types" of people, more just like personality traits, because I don't like to pigeonhole people into categories so much. I'd rather say it is a range of behaviors that a person is more or less likely to display.

[tina2008]

I hate disappointing Sir and even when He'll say I did really well with.....whatever, I still feel like a failure. The times I mess up and know I did (which, thankfully are few and far between), I punish myself more than He ever would. However, it isn't realistic to please everyone all the time.

Regarding subs intentionally misbehaving; as the previous post mentioned, that could be their personality; they might not be aware of how they're being perceived. It doesn't necessarily negate how submissive they are. Or, they could be a bit of a brat and their Dom doesn't mind. This could also be a way of testing a Dom (though that's not something I recommend as it smacks of game playing). They may be very new or haven't yet figured out their place. It can be easy to admit to being submissive; being submissive in a D/s relationship is something entirely different.

That's the great thing about these relationships; before a collar is placed or any sort of commitment is made, if you take things slowly, you pretty much know before hand if you'll be a good match.

[BryansGrrrl]

I believe that there are more than 2 general types.

There are service oriented submissives to genuinely enjoy doing things for their Dom, not needing or wanting to be forced into doing it, and their reward can be as simple as a smile or pat on the head.

Then there are the types that need to be forced into service and submission (and WANT to be forced) because they can't (or don't want to) give up that power without a struggle. I think it's a separate type of kink. "Bratty" subs may or may not fall into this category... thoughts on this would be appreciated. I'm not sure if I'd categorize "Bratty" separately or not.

There are bottoms, whom I feel are different than subs, in that they want to have things done to them (pain, forced service, etc) but on their terms and what THEY want... not so much what a Dom would NEED.

Of those three, I think there can be subcategories as well that would include subbies who are into humiliation, those who are into pain, etc. I don't know if I'd separate these 2 particular kinks from the others.