i would have to agree with denu, i defer to Him and get the why do you let Him do that crap all the time. i wear a slave anklet that rings everywhere i walk. so many people tell me the would tell Him go fuck Himself if they were given it. i just reply i wear it because He gave it to me so i love it. i would never tell them i don't have permission to remove it. He gets called gay all the time and He presents as very masculine and big just because He gardens. He gets alot of crap because He looks at me so lovingly. i got crap for sitting on the floor next to Him at a party while He was on the couch. (there wasn't even room on the couch btw) people are just judgemental over what is different from THEM and not even social norms as my experience goes.