Wired in reverse?

[denuseri]

We ussually dont really conduct ourselves in any kind of overt way in public that would let anyone in as to our kink; save in those venues where such behaviors will be acceptable (the whole when in rome principle).

In other words we dont do certian things that are totally socially inapropriate and adjust our behavior accordingly to the situation depending upon the circumstances.

Like I don't call my Owner "Master" when around the uninitiated and such, or stay off the furniture, or a number of other things that would quite naturally shock people, like kneeling etc.

It sounds that for the most part this is what most of us are doing as well (not being full on in anyones face about our kink). Something which I think we all wish we didnt have to do, but for the most part do anyways.

Yet we all probabely still manage to precive ourselves as having taken flack from the "nillas" lol.

Some gender roles are still heavely ingrained in the human phyche despite the artificial efforts of modern feminism or other social movments to expunge it. (Lesson: IE some things are for the most part hardwired and not capable of being so readily changed...things like sexual orientation for instance).

We may all feel the need as modern bdsm practicioners to seek social acceptance for being against the grain in some areas, to enhance the boundaries of what is and is not normal etc. But we should allways keep in mind that there will be those who don't understand us or who may react negatively to us at first until they get to know us.

It helps to keep in mind that social stereotypes are the way they are becuase they are in fact actually "ussually" applicable or so near universally applicable that they become so to the preception of a general public's prespective and wont change easily or at all in some cases, especially without proper education.

For instance...I am all sorts of bdsmy...yet if I saw a full grown male sitting on a womans lap in public in some circumstances or as with the car situation in the back seat as opposed to helping, or like at the party where one was kneeling on the floor while the other sat, I too may be perplexed to see such at first despite my being well informed of bdsmy things, simpley becuase it does break those ingrained preceptions.

This doesnt make such perceptions right or wrong or anything in all cases, but it is not anything new and part of the human proccess.

I used to get all sorts of crazy reactions when I was all gothed up in certian venues when I was younger. My Owner even more so (he is ten years my senior) when he was all "punked" out with a mohawk and such back in the day. Though now days..if I am conservative in my gothiness...I find people barely look twice in any kind of wtf manner and even if I am not conservative about it they for the most part shrug and go "oh she is a punk" or somthing to that effect, but I still wouldnt expect them to be so understanding if I was going in for a job interview.

They say "Familuraity breeds contempt" yet I think it also breeds among other things, an acceptance by proxy in its own way.

Hopefully some day the general public will become just as accepting of bdsm, and reversals of gender roles and any other safe sane and consensually based kinkology.

I am sure: everyone I would think, would hate to have to go back to the days of litterally hiding behind closed doors, that Ive heard so much about from my elders in the art.

Until that day, I hope and pray we all have the presence of mind to find the wisdom and serenity to conduct ourselves in a calm manner when dealing with preceptions of discrimination so as to not further alienate the general public anymore than is nessesary but to educate them as to give us equatible social acceptance in the eyes of society, which I believe we are well on the way to doing thanks to the dedicated efforts of many in the community.