honestly, if anything at all i am not bdsmy in public unless its a tasking day. like sitting on the floor was a no room on the couch thing and i still got a strong reaction. while i agree that a grown man sitting on a woman's lap would get my attention as well, there is so much prejudiced in the world of so much its sometimes hard for me.

when i was a stay at home mom, all the working women looked down on me openly.
when i breastfed my kids, all the bottle feeding moms and society as a whole reacted quite strongly even though i was always discreet though i refused to be relegated to the bathroom.
when i was a single mom, people looked down on me and treated me as a liability on the planet (couldn't get an apartment without borrowing a guy to pose as my husband)
my Master has asthma and serious allergies and when i mow O/our lawn there are so many sideways looks i can't tell you.
i think on the whole its just the way people are and while i don't go all outing myself and fly my freak flag high, i don't normalize myself either. i will at 44 years old dye my hair all sorts of colors, sit on His bike in leather all proud and still my kids eat veggies at dinner and do homework everyday.
my point is that i have found a way to be myself in ways that i am comfortable with the flack i get. tattoos, piercings, motorcycles and purplehair, job, pta, advocate and grocery shopper (lol) i am just tired of trying to fit my way of life into others perception of what it should be, while i do realize this is the world i have to live work and function in. rant of the day