It's funny, because I find myself on both sides. IRL, I am the breadwinner, I make all the financial decisions, and pretty much every other decision. I never used to be like that, and I suppose some people think I might be controlling, but honestly, I've HAD to step up, because I am married to a complete beta male. He's a 6 foot, 4 inch 230 lb guy who can't do most traditionally "male" things. He's an artist (I say that rolling my eyes....he is quite good, but I was an artist too-in a past life, until I realized that Starving Artist isn't exactly a great way to make a living, never mind having 2 under the same roof).

Anywho, on one hand, I'm all "I'm WOMAN, hear me ROAR" like when I put in our new garbage disposal. He does get flack for not having a job that provides for his family.....sometimes from me as well, but to be honest, I've been really glad that our kids have not had to be in daycare at all. On the other hand, I sometimes just wish the roles were changed. I wish I had someone who could take care of me, physically, mentally, and sometimes financially.

I think in society the roles for both men and women have really changed. My personal opinion is that it's harder for women, because many of us DO need to work outside of the home, but still find ourselves doing a majority of the "household duties." And men have found themselves being the caregiver of the kids much more than any generation in the past.

*sigh* I'm for women's lib & all that, and the minute you take away my freedom I'm liable to rebel, but sometimes I feel it would be nice to go back to the good old days.

Not that any of my rambling here helped you out at all, but my point is, things are so blurred anymore, yet the old ideals are still alive & kicking that I think MOST couples, regardless of their situation, probably don't fit into society's idea of "normal."

In a nutshell, if you're both happy, piss on everyone else!