Your not alone in your desire to find out and experience all the joys of a D/s relationship.

Of course a submissive must choose one's dominant; just as a dominant must also choose their submissive. It is a two way street.

The relationship need be only as secretive as the two of your desire it to be. No one need know what goes on behind closed doors between any couple regardless of the culture.

If your worried about exposure all I can tell you is to take the common sence steps to avoid it.