Man!!!! Deep and very true. Also I tend to disagree with Miner, it was not off topic. Instead it was spot on! There is a very thin line between domestic violence and consensual BDSM. Thus the reason one should thoroughly vett the person they are giving themselves to. The police are want not to understand that!! Too many times I've been in court and watched what went for domestic violence but instead was a sort of role play that got out of hand. Especially when done in a drunken stupor.