I too was very sheltered growing up in a strict religious family. Baptists aren't exactly known for their creativity in the bedroom department. I remember getting a more explicit talk about horrific things that could happen to me due to strangers than I did with the actual sex talk! (I think my grandmother mentioned that it was something for men that women put up with ha!) I was actually terrified of sex and swore I would NEVER DO THAT. So I didn't really put two and two together with my 'playing pretend' and later sexual response. I just knew that I always let myself get caught first and enjoyed the damsel in distress role the most. Playing by myself as a kid and as I got older I practiced tying myself to the bed as some other people here have mentioned. It didn't click for me until years later in college (before my first sexual experience) that I came across Laurell K Hamilton's Faerie and Vampire series of books along with Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty books that everything fell into place. I've kept it hidden until about a year ago and finding this site has really helped me face myself and know who and what I am and be proud and happy with that.