When did you first know

[selkie]

I too was very sheltered growing up in a strict religious family. Baptists aren't exactly known for their creativity in the bedroom department. I remember getting a more explicit talk about horrific things that could happen to me due to strangers than I did with the actual sex talk! (I think my grandmother mentioned that it was something for men that women put up with ha!) I was actually terrified of sex and swore I would NEVER DO THAT. So I didn't really put two and two together with my 'playing pretend' and later sexual response. I just knew that I always let myself get caught first and enjoyed the damsel in distress role the most. Playing by myself as a kid and as I got older I practiced tying myself to the bed as some other people here have mentioned. It didn't click for me until years later in college (before my first sexual experience) that I came across Laurell K Hamilton's Faerie and Vampire series of books along with Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty books that everything fell into place. I've kept it hidden until about a year ago and finding this site has really helped me face myself and know who and what I am and be proud and happy with that.

[Jennifer Williams]

I think my grandmother mentioned that it was something for men that women put up with ha!

Then she clearly wasn't doing it right.

I was actually terrified of sex and swore I would NEVER DO THAT.

I had a similar attitude as a teenager, which was due to the fact that SEX WILL KILL YOU was drilled into me in public school to the point that my best friend somehow came to the conclusion that STDs are actually created by people having sex outside of marriage (she wasn't too bright).

Though, for some reason, the fear of actual intercourse never translated over into any other kind of sexual activity for me.

I've kept it hidden until about a year ago and finding this site has really helped me face myself and know who and what I am and be proud and happy with that.

That is the best part to hear. Becoming happy with yourself is the secret to being happy with life in general, if you ask me.

[pissy-boy]

I’m not sure when I first realised I was a submissive. Although, it’s kinda funny really, because when I was young and I’d see people getting embarrassed in public (on kids shows like Get Your Own Back and stuff like that) I always felt such sympathy for them. I hated the idea of being humiliated like that.

Then, I don’t know, it was like someone flipped a switch inside me and I was… I wanted to be that person, almost. The fantasy of it was a real turn on. I’m not saying I want to be humiliated in public (not openly, anyway), but I definitely like the fantasy aspect of it.

I think the first thing I was into was ass worship and facesitting, and then maybe spankings, and it just developed from there. I think I was around thirteen or fourteen. It wasn’t really being tied up and physically punished (although they did come later), but just about the humiliation. It still to this day is mostly about the humiliation aspect of BDSM.

Anyway, that’s my story.