Hi OZ,
I dont really think theres any disagreement here. You identify a certain life style which you say stimulates a bunch of people sexually...seems fair enough and I'm sure you're right. I'm not sure i got that directly from Cecily's mail...but that may have been what she meant.
I just thought that clouding the issue with a lot of labels, vanilla, BDSM, kinky, 50's (like 40 years before Cecily was born)...she doesnt need that, she just needs to have an honest exchange with her man.
Im probably wrong though... ha ha!
that was exactly what Cecily's message was about though...but only Cecily can say.