It's a matter of training. You don't get this response because you are submissive, you get it because you say yes. Dominants have the same problem because those same people figure out we like being the "go-to guy" or gal.

I was a top-notch programmer a long long time ago in a galax... well just let's say it was a while back. My teammates came to me with all their questions, with problems they couldn't solve, with myriad tasks for which they wanted my help.

My solution was to help them the first time and tell them where to find the information they needed, and remind them the second time that they better make a note of that reference material because there would be no third.

My team became very efficient, not trying to thread everything through my queue.

There comes a point you have to say no.