i could never be a switch, but i don't know if it is my personality or the fact that i identify as slave that dictates this boundary for me. i don't like telling people what to do, and i don't like controlling others. i wouldn't punish, and i don't enjoy being served. So i would make the worst mistress ever. i think it has some to do with how proficient you want to be in a role...for instance, a person who is content with a moderate amount of knowledge should probably not have much trouble being a switch; on the other hand, someone who wanted to perfect a role would have a much harder time, because there are so many things to learn, practice, and remember.

i have a terrible memory. Even if i would make a decent mistress, and even if being in control wasn't an issue, and i felt comfortable in that role, there's no way i could do a good job as a switch just on that fact alone.

i absolutely hate condescension. There is no reason to ever look down on someone because they are one way or another, or in this case, both. i mean, in a community where vanilla people look down on us, why divide ourselves more by looking down on those whom we might not understand or with whom we might disagree? Instead of looking at our differences and using those to divide ourselves, we should use them to unite; after all, isn't the common thread between all of us the fact that we are different from vanilla relationships?