Quote Originally Posted by sexxypagan View Post
Hello, I am a complete newbie to bdsm.
Welcome!
I am wondering why seeing someone deliberately hurt themselves (ie. suspension - where someone hangs their entire body weight from hooks in their skin, or say a documentary in which they are measuring people's pain tolerances) turns me on. Note: this does not include the day-to-day 'ow I cut my finger' type of thing.

Anybody have an explanation for this/experience this?
Well, I am not a psychologist; I can't give you the least bit of information about why any of us is turned on/off by any kink. But experience that? You have me drooling to the floor. I love pain, especially inflicted on purpose, especially if the hurting person enjoys it *huge maniacal grin; goes to find a masochist to play with*

Needless to say, everyone has kinks, things that turn them on. And no two people are alike, so no two people's kinks will be exactly the same. For you, the pain has to be inflicted on purpose to be hot, for me that's not important; but for me, it's only hot if it's a male who's hurt; for you that may not matter. Being "the same" as someone is not important; what is important is accepting yourself for who you are, and not worrying so much about "if it's right." Right and wrong only come into play when you act- it is how you treat other people that has "right and wrong" attached to it.

Of course, if you're ever going to act on your desires, a plethora of right and wrong things come up. But so long as it's in your head, everything's fair game to be just fine, if you ask me *huge grin*.

Once you accept who you are and it doesn't bother you or scare you and you come to terms with yourself, the "why" of it becomes unimportant (at least for me). I could care less why watching my co-worker burn himself on the toaster is delicious to me; it just is. So long as I'm not inflicting anything on him he doesn't want; there is nothing wrong with that.

Hope this helps!
-Jenny