The New-Sub Jitters

[Red Dragon {mpellegrino}]

Aloha

I know I am no sub and cannot aspire to be such but would love to give you my thoughts for what they are worth.

It is all a question of perception I think. In my eyes, if you are indeed submissive, I think it takes a huge amount of strength and character to be submissive, especially in current western (only ones I can relate to ) attitudes. Being submissive does not mean you have to be all the time. You can still ne a 'modern woman' in public whilst being submissive privately. Many are indeed this way and some struggle with it.

I look on subs as having the strength of charater to be able to give a measure of freedom to another. How many people can say they could? I think perhaps you are pressured more by what you fear others persceptions of you might be. I can understand that, we are all affected by those in some way. But I do console myself by remembering that FEAR stands for False Expectations Appearing Real. You might be surprised by what people actually think privately.

I hope my thoughts are helpful or/and interesting. Regarless good luck on your new adventure and remember to keep asking questions of the members here.

Regards and Mahalo Dragon

[NiNLover]

Thank you for your insights!

I never thought of fear that way, so it's not a negative thing. Yeah, I guess I might be a tad more afraid. I'm pretty much known as the Honors student independent girl with goals, so being submissive to someone who doesn't understand would be like, ":O". I've actually met someone willing to train me and am enjoying Him so far (only been a couple of days so I won't really be able to tell just yet). He's not pushy and is trying to get to know what my limits are, which I think is great. He's straight with me. Somehow though it's difficult for me to get over the fear of what can happen as well. :\