I have thought about this some more. No matter what has happened to us good or bad it makes into to the person we are. I mentioned in my earlier post here that I spent several years in counseling. Luckily my counselor was not only ethical but brilliant and helped me to overcome a myriad of issures from my childhood. One of the most valuable things i took away from it is the importance of moving on and becoming the person i want to be instead of the mess that my circumstances had made me into. Some people spend their whole lives marinating in that pain and never enjoy their life at all. When i was 18 i was raped by a "friend" someone i trusted and had a terrible time coping with that. Trying to overcome that is what caused me to seek out therapy. The bottom line is i like myself and now that i'm 43 i am more comfortable in my skin than i have ever been. I think the bad things that have happened along with my efforts to overcome them have made me stong and able to cope with whatever life throws my way.