It sounds to me like you're doing the best you can; you can't turn your husband into someone he's not, and neither can you change yourself into someone you're not. It's already wonderful that you're at least able to communicate your desires to your husband and that he knows about them. It may just be that with time he'll grow less shy of it as he gets more used to it, if the two of you are mutually working towards that goal, but no one can really tell you what the future will bring.

I think the most important thing is for you to continue communicating with your husband about your feelings on this. Your idea of doing it his way half the time and your way the other half is a very common solution for people with different sexual desires. I know it goes opposite of the nature of submissives to have to tell your partner what to do, but in this case you may have to do that, at least until he learns enough about what you want to do it on his own. It seems to me that you're newly married, forgive me if I'm wrong; but for how long has he known that you feel this way?