Quote Originally Posted by maddie
Just for reference: I'm asking this out of curiosity, not need. I've often wondered if Doms look for something more than just the sorts of compatibility things people tend to look for in a "normal" relationship.

Thought about this some more- one thing I have a need for is a sub who has spirit. I couldn't imagine playing with one who was totally compliant.

I had one last year who did just about anything I asked- I think that was part of the problem. To me a D/s relationship has to be a challenge, to find a a way of getting a woman to submit of her own free will.

The biggest buzz for me is to have a powerful confident woman give herself to me.

Tojo