Search the forum for "munches" as there are some great conversations and advice in those threads regarding meeting like-minded people.

When you've become convinced you really can meet someone... then do a search on how to safely meet someone you find interesting. When you get to the point you want to play, search on negotiating and on safewords.

There's also a list herein that can help you identify what activities within the lifestyle interest you. It's not all bondage and/or spanking. That will help you understand your own inclinations... and perhaps expand on them. It will certainly help you with vocabulary (when negotiating it pays to understand exactly what the other person is proposing,) and it helps you match yourself to someone compatible with your needs.. (Search on questionairre, I think, for a link to that list.)