im sorry guys, i didnt realize this was in 2 sections

i totally get what Oz is saying and i too thought you meant in PUBLIC

soon as you said private, it put a whole new spin on it

i think what he is asking is that you be a whole hell of a lot more open about what you want sexually... this is gonna be a bit to explain

ok look...lets say he comes home at a certain time each day... and you want him to just spank you and fuck you silly at that time...for example...well you be waiting naked a beer in one hand and a hairbrush in the other... and maybe a bowl of chips between your legs...of course im kidding about theat last part,... you can be ready in so many number of ways...say to massage him...have a bath ready....... say you just want to please him before dinner...well have the maids uniform ready.. you just need to gauge what he is looking for ... surely you have SOME idea... if not, wait til sex and tell him what YOU want...maybe he thinks that is "slutty" you telling him exactly what you want... oh yeah, bite that nipple, slap my ass, and call me aunt gertrude... if of course that is it

you guys will strike a balance... its inevitable... but there is no need to make it more complicated..as soon as you said he wants slutty in private, it told me he is looking for just more openly sexual... let your imagination run wild and for fucks sake, if there was anything you wanted to try but were shy or reserved of, well go for it !