In addition to snark's entirely sensible suggestion, there are also several podcasts (of all things) devoted to fetish and d/s relationships. They might be particularly useful because, when I last checked at the end of summer, at least two of them were shows that took reader calls and emails, and then directly reacted to questions or scheduled guests who would talk about topics of broad interest (for example, the nature and structure of "morning service" in a sub's life). They shouldn't be hard for you to find, but do feel free to drop me a note if you need guidance.

S.