My husband and I are just starting to explore the Dom/sub waters, but we noticed a long time ago that I liked it when he used the rope and under bed restraints. I went through some bad stuff a while back with being assaulted and I couldn't handle being restrained in any way for a long time, but my husband and slowly made me feel safe with him to the point that I am not afraid to let him restrain me. Things have slowly progressed to the point that I have realized that I have always excercised so much control in my daily life with running my household, having been an active duty Soldier a while ago and having a lot of responsability to the personnel my office took care of as well as the personnel in my section, the bedroom is the one place that I can let someone else take control instead of me. I am not a full time sub (OMG, I assert my household authority in a second!!), only in the bedroom and only when I am in the right mindframe for it... but when I am in the right place, he really enjoys taking control.