Red flags for those new to the lifestyle

[lucy]

All in all very true, although I disagree with quite a few 'red flags' on that list. For example those below. Maybe it should be added in that
(For simplicity's sake I'm assuming we're talking 'bout a self-proclaimed Dom)

•Pushes you into a D/s relationship too fast.

Maybe. But only if the sub in concern doesn't voice their objections. And what's too fast? And how to recognize it when the hormones go rampant?

•Falls in love with you way too fast and swears undying love before even meeting you.

Oh my. Now falling in love is a bad thing?

•Hides behind their D/s authority and says that their authority should not be questioned.

Doms that allow their authority to be questioned routinely get called douchebags.

•Loses control of their emotions in arguments and regresses to yelling, name-calling and blame.

Sounds like me when I'm on PMS.

•Monitors your communications (emails, phone calls, chats) with others.

That's bad? I don't think so. It only is bad when he uses whatever he sees to the sub's disadvantage.
Personally, i was pretty glad my Master kept an eye on my online activities after we got together.

•Only interacts with you in a kinky or sexual manner as if role-playing. Will not have normal everyday vanilla conversations.

Wot? it isn't all about sex and mindblowing orgasms?

•Never shows you their human side. Is emotionless. Hides their vulnerability behind their D/s role.

Let's face it: There's tons of chicks out there who think that's how a Dominant should be.

•Has multiple online identities for interacting with the same communities.

A sub would hardly know about that, right? And if she does it would be a red flag because of the dudes stupidity to let her know...

But I still hope a few people read it before they get their fingers burned, or worse. However, seeing how some people (especially women...) desperately throw themselves after every shitbag that claims to be a Dom i don't think this list will do much good.