Hi welcome to KY_Master, JMW1961 & rosydawne.

rosydawne, one's sexuality isn't cast in stone, from what I've seen & I've seen quite a bit. I hope your wish comes true.

JMW- talk to your partner, first & foremost- she knows what she wants, or get her to write it down for you.

KY- yes try the personals, but start slow. From what I hear many nice subs are put off by anyone coming on too strong, try making friends first.

Have a great time guys.

Tojo