Yes most of these can be for either role....and lucy yes someone falling in love with you and saying you are the love of their life after talking to them for a week online and never meeting them is a huge red flag.......I dont know about you but I dont fall in love that easily.....and yes it's not all about sex........if its all about sex the dom could jsut get a blow up doll and a bottle of lube......there is the little thing called service....you know doing non-sexual things for your dom/me....and yes my sub can question my role and authority....and I will tell them why it is the way it is they can accept it or not....but to just say becuase i said so and do not question me is rather lame...and a dom/me that can not control themselfs or their emotions is a bad thing......or is it ok if I had a really shitty day at work to come home pissed off and beat the shit out of my sub and call her names and such for no other reason than I am mad and "can't" control myself or my emotions.....