I think some people feel that this sort of hard headed reality check spoils the fun. To which I can only say that dating an axe murderer spoils the fun a whole lot more. (No, I'm not exagerating, some inadequately cautious subs have done literally that.)Amen to that. I've been in touch with a few.
I see way too many people come online who appear to leave their common sence at the log in screen. I was unfortunate enough to do that very thing myself once and almost paid the ultimate price. It pains me to think how many of my sisters make the same mistakes.I second that.
One of the things I like about this site over others is that it doesn't promote that kind of thinking (or lack there of) and I would like to thank them as well as the OP and others (I know you know who you are) for taking the time to remind people to keep a hold of that common sence and put safety first over kink.