There are people who can bear a serious and potentially dangrous grudge who would never dream of warning anyone. I am glad if you haven't met any.
That is why it is good to discuss the list - what is meant? What is the context? It is hard to make a list which is short yet covers everything.Or the claim is dubious:
"Has multiple online identities for interacting with the same communities."
As Lady FireinIce essentially disproved, not putting my real name on my yahoo messenger account actually promotes my own safety.
BDSM communities vary a lot.Then there is a third example I realized, the claim is opposite of reality:
"Has no BDSM references or friends you can talk to."
"Criticizes the BDSM community and refuses to participate, especially if they never were part of it."
I hope I can be forgiven for not wanting to hang out in a warehouse with some bald guys.
Why should people who go to a club or organsations be "creepy and furthest away from reality?" Or, indeed, more dangerous than other people?To be completely honest, I find people who go to "dungeons" a lot, seem to be the most creepy and furtherest away from reality. Being part of the BDSM "community" doesn't make someone suddenly less dangerous. In fact, I feel I could argue (with equally strong premises as aforementioned, i.e. none) that they are more dangerous than normal people.
Since this is a newcomer's forum, and many are adviced to seek out bdsm societies, maybe you should explain this very emphatic view.
I have myself had only good experiences with such organisations, which gave me security when I started, and good friends which I have had for many years after.
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