umm...im not very experienced and perhaps should not comment ...... but remember silver.. there are many colours in a rainbow... each is unique and very different from the others

some Dom's will say you are not submissive because you dont bow and scrape to any who tell you what to do... submission is an individual thing and the expectations should be negotiated between your dom and you..(or just between who you are playing with at the time...)
the same with humiliation...personally its not something that appeals but as a punishment..it is extremely effective....