Sounds normal to me...everyone has doubts at one time or another.

You will never know unless you ask him. It takes a lot of courage to initiate a conversation on this with one's partner when one thinks they may or may not be into bdsm as much as they are. Success ratios vary...some guys are shocked some not, some wanna go overboard some run away. Your man sounds into it enough from what you have told me..so who knows, maby he is just waiting for you to give him the green light to take it to the next level.

I found giving them a letter to read decribing in graphic detail (mostly pornographic too lol) just exactly what it was I wanted them to hopefully do to me... and had them read this while I was giving him...one hell of a blow job. Winks.

Nothing says your arrangment with him has to be traditonal if the two of you want it some other more casual way thats fine too. All that can be discussed at length when both of you are ready to more clearly define things.

Comunication is paramount eaither way in the end.

I shall pray that you find what you seek in him.