I too have poor relationships with my biological family (no Cleavers here either) but I do have other people close to me in my life, despite the fact that by nature I'm kind of a spiky and cantankerous asshole. "Family" can include a wide variety of definitions. I don't think the list is meant to be prescriptive, simply things to be aware of. And no offense intended, but you do belong to this community, and have important information to contribute here, for the purposes of discussion or elucidation, or you'd not have posted, yes?