I appreciate all the input in this discussion, as it allowed me to continue to think about things, while I agree that labels aren't always a helpful thing. It really helped me gain perspective about how I viewed my "non dominant" side, at lack of better words.

As weird as it might sound (and I'm very interested in reading more in that thread and discuss things further as I realize that *I* didn't give much input there myself) I believe it kind of confirmed my realization of those last few months that while I am a switch in the way that my fiancé is more dominant than I am, I really think that my own dominant side is the most important and how I consider myself, while some activities I enjoy with Keltar would make me on the bottom side. I know that beside my relationship with him, I'm the dominant, but I think that what sums up the thrill I have with Keltar is that basically he's even more dominant than me, and it makes it fun to be two alphas.

I hope I made enough sense, as I know I have only been working on expressing it properly lately, but I know that it helps knowing who I am in a more accurate way.