im sorry shyslut.. but im a great believer in communication (unfortunately learnt the hard way).. take a time out... agree on code words.. or use pictures, play a certain song, dress up (mmm corsets are sooo sexy) or down (be naked when he gets home) ..document it in a journal but from experience.. if you cant express yourself to your partner.. it often means one or both will be very disappointed... or other option show your partner your thread..at least he will be aware of your needs..i wish you well.. em