Thank you, Jones, Nikka, for the explaination. Your boyfriend, "F.", is no doubt lucky indeed. As for my own confusion, perhaps it is I who should apologize, but you can see the similarity in initial letters. Just to be clear, I did not wish to be any party in your self-recrimination.

Anonymity is grand, such as your b.f. prefers, and it must be also said that "Faibhar" is a nom de plume/guerre/whatever, as are many other names used at this venue.

Speaking of which, sharing your fantasies (and not your anonymities) with partners does help the world revolve.