Hi again
I hope I haven't given the impression that I have a full time 'on line' relationship with my owner. I lived with him 24/7 for over two years before things made it essential for me to move away for a bit, which is why he is in London and I am on Oxford (UK) during the working week.

Perhaps I have misled people because really what I have been talking about (as, I think, are most of the subbies posting on this tread as well) is carrying on a thriving relationship when my owner is not physically pesent all the time. As Count Duq points out, it must be hard (impossible?) if such a relationship is SOLELY on-line. (Mine, I have to confess, is mainly 'on telephone' rather than on line, although that will change when I have managed to get my cam working.) I have to admit that I am not sure that I could cope with a totally seperate existence; I have come to rely on my owner to an enormous degree during our time together and that's the bedrock on which our relationship is based.

As for subbies testing their masters/owners, I am sure that must happen in just about ever healthy D/s relationship; it certainly did in ours. Like Nikka I learnt painfully just how easily he could see through my little games, and it did not take very long for me to discover that they were not worthwhile from any aspect. Now I get far more of a kick from pleasing him than I ever did from seeing just how far I could push him (which turned out NOT to be very far )

Hope this clarifies things a bit
Love Jane