The PRO Dominatrix came about as a way to beat the prostitution laws...Make a list of all the things you want your husband to do in dominating you..Find your local dungeon...take your husband..leave your bra and underwear at home...let him see how hot the action in the dungeon made you...when you leave, blow him in the car before you leave the parking lot. Then go home and explain all the things that turn you on about being dominated. Tell him what he can not do to you. Now strip naked and walk backwards towards the bedroom beckoning him with your finger to follow as you wiggle your ass to the bed. Now for the being in it for my own pleasure...YES...but my slave/sub is just as important. That is why I took them..to expand their limits...increase their pleasure...go where my mind will take us.