I am in the same boat as your wife. Six year into our marriage I said I couldn't ignore and stuff down my submissive side anymore. He is working hard, and seems to enjoy being Dominant. In addition to the books mentioned, which have been wonderful, he has also read The Loving Dominant, The New Topping Book, The New Bottoming Book and Different Loving. I also asked a trust Dom to mentor him by e-mail which has been a great support for him.

Best of Luck