IMHO the only time it is wrong is if it is a form of punishment to deny you masturbation....some feel it is a form of control...but unless you are a 24/7 slave..all we have is your word that you didnt. some feel that if made to abstain it will heighten your play.....not... oh sorry master I already came twice today so the one you just gave me ehh it was ok... Personally I get more pleasure out of making her hold it as long as she can during play. but it still comes down to as a submissive establishing your limits...yes we will try it your way of X amount of time and then try it my way for the same amount of time and then evaluate and decide which provided the more desirable results.....Be safe and Play well