I live in a town where almost all of the Dominants I have met are just...not my type at all. I tried a munch and it was a train wreck and a complete waste of time for me. I have had several online D/s experiences, each one very different. Some were just for fun, others I took very seriously. It took me several years to find the right One. In this relationship, we have progressed over time from getting to know each other to full on M/s. I find it extremely fulfilling and have no doubt that it is a very real relationship. W/we are going to see each other very soon and plan to make time to do so as often as possible. Long Distance is difficult at times, yes, but with communication and the proper attention, it works out beautifully for U/us.

There are people who are able to live this lifestyle 24/7 and that is great for them! Some people, like me, are in a position where that kind of change in their life is not possible right now, so they do what they can to get the fulfillment they need. I am personally a true believer in L/D online relationships, especially in this sense, because there has to be a period of learning each others' minds and techniques, needs, limits, desires and so many other aspects before you can really approach the physical side. I would never physically submit to a Dom I just met and do not know well or trust implicitly. I also believe that there HAS to be a point where you know you will actually see each other in real life, otherwise, what are you working toward?

Trust is a major issue when deciding to enter into an online D/s relationship. There are several posts in the forums regarding "Red Flags" and you should pay close attention to all of the signs as to whether this person with whom you are communicating can really be trusted. You are sharing the most intimate, deepest, darkest secrets about yourself with a complete stranger, and you need to be sure they are indeed who they say they are. There are posts on safety and trust so I won't go into all that here.

My relationship is very healthy and happy, and I do not doubt for a moment the validity of it. It isn't just about playing, sexual satisfaction and fantasies. It's about learning and growth as well. If you are looking for play and thrill, then you can get that just about anywhere with anyone. But if you are looking for a real and fulfilling online relationship, it is all about the amount of time and effort you and your D/s are willing to put into it. Once a week won't cut it. It takes maintenance, just like any other relationship. You have to find a balance that works for you both. Doubt, suspicion and mistrust are all signs that it is time to move on.

To each, his/her own, they say. I know, for this girl, online/phone/email and communication in general are what get it done for her. Master is VERY good at what He does, and there is no doubt in my mind at all that we are in a committed M/s relationship that will last a very long time.

~Master's Muse~