This is a great list to have out there, especially on a forum like this. It's unfortunate but the public image of BDSM has a lot of appeal for assholes and people with no self esteem. It sometimes seems like people think a good Dom should be cruel and make their sub miserable. I really think a good Dom should be a good person, someone who is actually worth devoting yourself to. Your red flag list is particularly important for new subs to read, to help them avoid getting involved with people who are only going to hurt them and can't be trusted. I know that is a big worry of mine as I'm starting to look for a real life Domme. I have pretty good gut instincts, but I do worry that in my excitement over meeting someone I might do something stupid.