I'm so happy to see this topic! I'm incredibly new round here (this is my first post!) but I'm really loving everyone's inital perceptions.

I guess when other people always had notions of this, I kinda agree. I always remember when I was younger, aged about 7, being very interested in sex. I was probably more knowledgeable than alot of people my age! And I recall having erotic dreams around 10 too. In your usual rough rough-and-tumble childhood games, where people grappled, I loved being pinned to the ground or generally held down and restrained. I also remember a fascination for things like collars and darker things than most of my peers. Once I was older, I started actively imagining being restrained and dominated by another. When everyone else says they always knew, that they always had signs of BDSM...I felt as if I didn't and therefore couldn't truly be part of the scene!

After typing that out, I see now that perhaps my inclination was always there, just not realised! A newbie dipping her toe in the water here. Finding everyone else's opinions utterly fascinating!