It has been a couple of weeks since the last post on this thread, and I am wondering how things are going. The advice given by the very experienced members was good advice. My suggestion is for the two of you to read things together, Forum posts are good, and the Stories are good choices too. As you read, you might ask each other if what you have read excites them, does it make you hard, does it make her wet. Keep in mind that for most of us, there are fantasies that arouse us but that we probably would never actually do, and that is okay. What you are after is finding out what turns you on and what turns her on. Then you can decide if you want to include those things in your play. "Punishment" implies that someone has not followed agreed upon rules. That could be really violating an agreement, or it could mean role playing. It would be helpful to be clear with each other about which is which. The Forums are a terrific resource, free of charge and no strings. If there were strings it would only be to report back on how things are going. So, how are things going?