haha that's okay. And no, i don't live with my Owner. W/we met through the library and have our first face-to-face meeting in planning right now. There's definitely a lot to think about as far as bdsm goes. Something that i'd highly recommend because you two are both new and exploring like/dislikes/limits etc would be to have you both fill out a BDSM checklist and go over them together. i know there is a link for a good one somewhere on the library, or you could just do a google search for it.