Quote Originally Posted by Mistress Fiera View Post
For many many years I was on this site and I thought it began and ended here. I thought that people who got to get out there and have real life were rare and special. Now I realize that ANYONE CAN HAVE R/L!!! I am so dissapointed that in all the years I was on this site that no one ever said, yes you too can have this and here is how. Frankly I got back on here just to tell people how to do it. It is not just for some of us. So basically that is my message.

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I hope that someone reading this will find a real experience. That is the only wish I have. I just wanted to tell you that it does not end here and that Fetlife is a way to find the groups and the events where you live. That's all.
I think it's totally good to make people aware of the fact that there are all sorts of outlets to bring BDSM into offline life, but I think it's odd that you didn't know it was within reach. Is this a common misconception? As soon as I learned there was a name for what I wanted, I knew I wouldn't be happy without it in my life. It was an actual goal. I was in an online relationship for years and I knew I'd found the One for me, but I never felt like I wasn't special enough for it to move offline, and I knew that there was a local group. Maybe it's just that the resources I used to learn about kink are no longer as readily available or open, but I never saw this as a fantasy only.