Davina, that's a really good post. I had never heard the term "switch" before I joined this forum. I guess I have had a sheltered life. Anyway, I do understand that people might want to be dominant sometimes and submissive at others, depending on mood, the particular partner, the place they are in their life etc. I have tried out both roles with my husband in play. With him dominant and me sub, it's just a lot better for both of us. I don't feel the dominant role like I do submissiveness. I would just be acting, and the same for him in reverse. But it can be fun at times to mix things up. From what I read here, it seems that other people do feel just as good in either role.