this may be an awkward twist and I hope all will forgive because I'm new here but I think it is very similar to ksst's assessment in that there is no way for me to submit "all" the time. My job makes me deal with a lot of pressure and I find it exhilarating to "let go" of the reigns and let my Princess take over. I think she enjoys the opportunities it provides her and we both achieve a great deal of satisfaction from it. We have been playing a D/s role for many years and I think it has benefitted our lives tremendously. But as much as submission has always been my fantasy, it has always remained contained within strict boundaries in reality. But I think it gives us some balance.