There are many of us, dominants, who abhor brats. I for one, far prefer obedient adoration. I don't want to break you... well, not in the sense of breaking your spirit. I want to see you suffer to please me. To watch you struggle as you deny yourself your orgasm until it pleases me to let you release or until I force you to cum before I "allow" it. I want to punish you, not for being a brat but for failing to meet my exacting standards... and when you do, I'll swat you twice as hard and twice as much as your reward.

"Poor girl can't even keep track of two spank-counts.... cardinally on the left cheek and ordinally on the right cheek... but believe me, we'll keep trying until you get it right."

I want someone who wants to kneel before me. If your psyche needs me to force you to extend yourself, I'll find your soft boundaries and force you past them. Make you ride the edge of your safeword but not quite over it...

So I say revel in the kind of submission you want to give. Your dominant will either learn to appreciate it or will grow into it or will move on and you'll find others, with more experience who appreciate the finer points of submission.

One last thing however, if your dominant says lets role play... and he expects you to be a bratty student, incorregible patient, or some other sort of character who needs a "lesson", then you should indeed "play the part". But not as your normal behavioral mode.

I'm Oz and I've approved this opinion.