Great info! I didn't know just how lucky I was to be in my first real BDSM relationship with someone who was already a friend of 15 years. Yes, we still have to work at communicating what we want, but I know that I can trust him completely.
Thanks for your perspective. (oh, BTW, I do medieval recreation because I like men to open doors for me-not that I wouldn't hold if for you if your arms were full-chivalry is not dead, and it should go both ways. One comment made by someone in that hobby was as follows: Gentlemen, honor all ladies. Ladies, remain worthy of all honor.)